Congratulations to Moshami and Ravi who exchanged their preliminary wedding vows today,12/24/2012, Christmas Eve. This is only the first segment of the time honored Hindu tradition which will culminate in India in the Spring with a huge,colorful family affair. Today,however although a simple, casual moment will always stand out in their minds as honey sweet.
Susana and Gustavo were married in a spiritual Unity Candle Ceremony in Houston Texas on 12/15/2012.
As their blended family enclosed
them in a circle of love and light, Susana and Gustavo exchanged heartfelt promises and vows in english and spanish to each other witnessed by close family and friends. Many blrssings to you both. May you live long and prosper!
Congratulations Eric and Bethany who were married at Hermann Park at the Collonade on 11/10/2012, with a beautiful waterfall as a backdrop. The couple exchanged lighthearted promises and solemn vows in front of their close family. It was an emotional and joyous occasion. Congratulations Eric and Bethany on your wedding day. May your marriage be blessed and your future bright.
Congratulations Takina and Tirese! Takina and Tirese exchanged their promises and vows under the arches of The Williams Water Wall amidst family and friends. It was a memorable moment. Many
blessings and unlimited happiness for your future together!
Many of the couples that I have wedded are going on their first anniversaries or perhaps their second. Each year of your journey should be special. There maybe some who have been married a long time but are thinking of doing a vow renewal to honor their many years of marriage. The appropriate gifts to buy for these occasions can be confusing but luckily there is precedent. Maybe the anniversary gift guide can help. The guide has been updated with a few gift ideas to make your shopping a little easier.
1st Anniversary- The first anniversary is the year of paper. Paper gifts are not as boring as one may think. It can be as simple as a handwritten poem or as lavish as an airline ticket. 2nd Anniversary – The second anniversary is cotton. A good cotton gift is clothing. …
Is your anniversary here again? Don’t know what to buy your better half? Maybe the anniversary gift guide can help. The guide has been updated with a few gift ideas to make your shopping a little easier.
1st Anniversary- The first anniversary is the year of paper. Paper gifts are not as boring as one may think. It can be as simple as a handwritten poem or as lavish as an airline ticket.
2nd Anniversary – The second anniversary is cotton. A good cotton gift is clothing. Personalizing it makes it even more special. Nowadays you can personalize just about anything.
3rd Anniversary- The third anniversary gift is leather. Wallets and purses are nice leather gifts. There are also tins of leather items that can be personalized as well. (Ex. Personalized leather bracelets or briefcases)
4th Anniversary- Linen is the fourth anniversary gift. Linen gifts include table linens and vacation linen shirts also known as Guayaberas.
5th Anniversary- Wood is fifth anniversary gift. Gift ideas range from gift baskets to furniture.
6th Anniversary- The sixth anniversary is iron. Iron gifts include candleholders and picture frames.
7th Anniversary- Depending on who you ask, the seven year anniversary is either copper or wool. Cooper gifts include vases and bowls. Wool gifts include sweaters and scarves.
8th Anniversary- Bronze is the eighth anniversary gift. Bronze gifts can be anything from a candleholder or vase to a trinket or memorable keepsake being bronzed.
9th Anniversary- Pottery is the ninth anniversary. Sculptures, vases and bowls are the most common of these gifts. A great gift idea would be to enjoy a pottery class together.
10th Anniversary- Tin or Aluminum is the gifts for 10 years of bliss. Jewelry boxes or tin gift containers filled with goodies make great tin/aluminum gifts. Gift basket containers would be a great to incorporate tin or aluminum.
11th Anniversary- Eleven years of marriage equal a gift of Steel. Gifts can be anything from a stainless steel watch or pendant to stainless kitchen appliances.
12th Anniversary- Silk is the twelfth anniversary gift. Silk pajamas and sheets are a wonderful gift. Robes and clothing are also great.
13th Anniversary- The thirteenth anniversary is that of Lace. This anniversary gift’s element is more for the ladies. Lace table linens, hankies and nightgowns are wonderful gifts of lace.
14th Anniversary- Ivory is the gift fourteen years of marriage. Imagination is important for this gift giving year. An ivory broche is a worldly gift for your wife and if your husband is open to anything, try an ivory elephant tusk. Not likely huh? How about Ivory soap? At least I tried.
15th Anniversary – Fifteen years of wedded bliss earn you Crystal. Swarovski Crystals set in a pendant, watch or other piece of jewelry is a nice idea. For the simple folk, a crystal vase or personalized champagne flutes add that touch of romance.
20th Anniversary- Twentieth Anniversary is the gift of China. That is pretty self explanatory.
25th Anniversary- Twenty five years of marriage is also known as The Silver Anniversary. Silver jewelry or nice jewelry boxes are always safe bets.
30th Anniversary- Pearl is the gift of a thirty year anniversary. Pearls can be given as a necklace or placed in a ring.
35th Anniversary- Coral or Jade is the gifts for this anniversary. You can find coral gifts such as vases, sculptures, trays or games made or coral. Jade gifts are usually jewelry like bracelets and earrings.
40th Anniversary- The fortieth year anniversary gift is Ruby. Like many of the gifts, jewelry is a good gift.
45th Anniversary- Sapphires represent forty years of marriage. Jewelry
50th Anniversary- The Golden Anniversary is among one of the well known. Gold gifts can be anything from jewelry to golden vases, cups, frames, figurines and other trinkets.
55th Anniversary- Emeralds are the gifts of this year. Jewelry is a common gift.
60th Anniversary- Sixty years of being married most certainly deserves Diamonds. What could be better than diamond jewelry?
65th Anniversary- Blue Sapphires are the gifts of this year. Once again jewelry is appropriate…it’s deserved!
70th Anniversary- Platinum gifts are representative of seventy platinum years of marriage. Platinum gifts include jewelry, music boxes, figurines and gift boxes.
75th Anniversary- Once again Diamond is the gift of choice. After seventy five years of marriage, it is most certainly deserving. Best gift…Jewelry!
80th Anniversary- Oak represents eighty years of marriage. If you have been married eighty years than you marriage is stronger than oak. Nevertheless a fantastic oak gift is Oak Home! If you can’t afford it, there are tons of handmade oak gifts such as furniture, wall shelves and many more.
Flowers and gift baskets are great gift ideas for those of the more modern times, no matter which anniversary you are celebrating.
Remember, a well written ceremony, a few close friends and family and a wonderful, thoughtful gift to your significant other can mark the beginning or continuation of an exciting life’s journey. Don’t miss the opportunity to commemorate your love, it enriches all of us.
Congratulations Juana and Jesus!
Ahora, puede valiente el viento que cada uno sera refugio para el otro..
Juana and Jesus celebrated their marriage at The Knights of Columbus Hall with a unity sand ceremony in Willis, Texas on Saturday. The ceremony was done entirely in Spanish. We wish Juana and Jesus much happiness and many blessings for their life together.
Congrats Nissa and Adam! Nissa and Adam were married in a fun Hawaiian luau backyard setting near Kemah, Texas on Saturday. The theme of their wedding was wov en into the dress of their family and friends to the cake made like a tiki hut! We wish the newlyweds many blessings for the future.
You’re Engaged !
You certainly want to enjoy this wonderful and magical time in your life but you know that planning your own wedding is going to be a big job! The following checklists might make it a little easier for you to keep it simple, keep it organized and keep you sane!
The 12-Month Countdown
- 6-12 Months Before Your Wedding…
- The wedding date has been set and now like any large project, it’s a good idea to step back and take a look at the big picture first, then break it down to the finer details later.
- The Big Picture: Who, What, Where and How:
- Decide who will pay for what, where you’ll get married and how expenses will be shared
- Talk to friends, family, bridal consultants or wedding coordinators to get the direction you need for starting an organization system.
- For most couples, the wedding day can be a blur, so decide early on the best way to capture your special day’s cherished memories – like with an Photo Guest Book.
- The Details
Once you have your organization system in place, start going down your to-do detail list. Here are a few of the critical ones:
- Contact your Church Pastor, Non- Denominational Minister or Officiant/Celebrant</li>
- Explore pre-marriage counseling
- Decide on what size wedding you want
- Consider and decide on wedding attendants
- Start a guest list for the wedding
- Begin determining ideas/themes/color schemes for your wedding and reception
- Select a reception location and a caterer if need be
- Consider reception entertainment
- Select a florist
- Together, shop for wedding rings
- Select a wedding dress, headpiece and schedule fittings
- Decide on the bridesmaids’ dresses
4 – 6 Months Prior To Wedding Date
As the wedding date gets closer, the to-do list will consist of finer and finer details. And because you put an organization system in place months ago, you won’t miss a one!
Check details and requirements for marriage license
Coordinate theme and color schemes with florist and decorator
Decide on a gift registry and register your gift selections
Order your invitations and other wedding stationer
Shop for the groom’s attire and select what the men in the wedding will wear
Select wedding ceremony readings
Select wedding ceremony music
Decide and order wedding favors
Select a bakery for the cake
Arrange and plan honeymoon
Review your agreements with all your vendors and service providers to insure you haven’t forgotten any details
2-Months… and Counting
- Mail out invitations
- Arrange and plan your rehearsal dinner
- Select and purchase your wedding day accessories
- Arrange attendant’s parties
- Coordinate and prepare accommodations for out-of-town guests
- >Select a hairdresser and makeup artist and schedule those appointments
- <li>Finalize those honeymoon plans
1-Month To Go!
- Last wedding dress fitting
- Final fitting for bridesmaids’ dresses
- Final fitting for men attendants
- Get marriage license
- Have your wedding attendant’s parties
- Shop and purchase your outfit to wear when you leave the reception
- Organize the final check list of wedding day events
- Confirm all the wedding day “accessories” are in order, i.e. rings, pillows, garter, etc.
- 2-Weeks Remaining! It’s finalizing time.
- Finalize entertainment arrangements
- Go over and finalize music lists, and special music events, i.e. first dance, dance with parents, etc
- 1-Week Before Your Big Day!
- Review your marriage license to make sure it’s in order
- Prepare seating arrangements for ceremony
- Prepare payment envelopes for Officiate, entertainment and vendors and give to the person who will handle that
- Confirm honeymoon reservations
- Make necessary honeymoon preparations, i.e. bank, traveler’s checks, etc.
- Prepare and pack for honeymoon
- Confirm out-of-town guest accommodations and transportation
- Check in with the florist to confirm arrival time set up
- Have your wedding ceremony rehearsal with your Minister ,letting everyone know what they will do on the wedding day
- Have and ENJOY your rehearsal dinner!
Your Wedding Day!
- Allow plenty of time for your scheduled hair and makeup appointments
- Allow at least 2 hours for dressing
- Bring the rings and marriage license
And MOST IMPORTANTLY, take a long deep breath and relax and enjoy your day!
If you’re struggling to decide if you’re in the right relationship,just ask yourself one simple question:
“Am I Trying To Make The Wrong Shoes Fit?”
Last week was an interesting one for me. I returned to Texas,after spending a week in Chicago, mulling over a couple of conversations I’d had with a client while I was there.
I asked him if I could share his story with you, not using his real name and details of course, as I felt there were some lessons here that would benefit my readers. He gave me his permission to do just that.
So, we’ll call him Jim for the sake of this story.
Now Jim is a very fortunate man. He’s fifty, fit and financially sound. He divorced eight years ago, has grown-up kids and a couple of young nephews he loves as if they were his own. He owns his own business which he’s built from the ground up, and which makes him a VERY good living. He plays golf, is passionate about cars, and takes vacations in Hawaii and the Caribbean. In short Jim lives the kind of life many of us would love to be living.
But of course something was missing. Love.
Jim needed to fill the space in his heart, so out and about he went to find a soul mate. He met women online and offline; through dating agencies and friends; through well meaning matchmakers and at professional gatherings; at the theater and even on a plane once. Jim dated some lovely women, but the problem was that none of them was PERFECT.
Jim by now was so set in his ways, that he didn’t know how to make room in his life for another ‘real person’–he had an image in his head, his dream woman, and none of the real, emotional, flawed HUMAN people he met, seemed to measure up to his 10 out of 10 vision of perfection.
And then he met her. Picture perfect, young, fresh, flawless. He fell hard, just like those avalanches I was talking about last week–completely, chaotically, loudly and MESSILY. Anyone caught in his path got swept away. She was the ONE. Jim moved heaven and earth to woo this delectable young lady, with the face as smooth and beautiful as a piece of fine porcelain. They started dating.
At first all went well. Jim swept her off her feet with lavish dinners, trips to the Spa, weekends away in Vegas, and even a surprise trip to Paris. He bought her gifts, jewelry and flowers every week.
At first she seemed to enjoy Jim’s company as much as he did hers. They would talk intensely, laugh at each others jokes, have fun and of course make crazy ‘passion.’ But before too long, within a matter of only a few weeks, Jim noticed some troubling signs. She’s was irritable with him, seemed distracted–bored even. She’s make excuses not to see him on certain nights, and when she did, wasn’t as affectionate as before.
And her demands got greater too. She was unimpressed with the one carat earrings, and under-whelmed with anything that wasn’t from Prada, Channel or some equally prestigious brand name…
Jim started trying harder. More expensive gifts, more exotic trips away, a credit card with a $25,000 limit, and even a sports car. He took more time away from his business, a day here and there, and then a week, or even two. He’d go in late in the mornings, but was struggling to put his heart back in it at all…all he could think about was her, and the creeping dread that he was about to lose his dream.
He started driving by her house those evenings he wasn’t with her, snooping through her pockets when he was. Jim got more desperate, she got more dismissive and disgusted with him, and the whole thing spiraled into a car wreck of a situation.
She left him of course. And Jim is still paying a heavy price. Not only did he spend tens of thousands of dollars trying to buy her affection, but he let his business go downhill too, and is now desperately trying to get back to where he was before he met her. It’s going to take a long time. Lots of customers are not generous with second chances as Jim is discovering. He let himself go as well, physically, emotionally and mentally. His confidence is battered too.
Jim found out things about himself that he really didn’t like: his poor judgement, his superficiality, his almost-adolescent grabbing for a girl half his age, his innate jealousy, his willingness to sacrifice his self-respect. He learnt how fragile the whole facade of his life had been, and how easily it could collapse. These are valuable lessons indeed, but I know Jim would rather never have had to learn them. Yup, Jim squandered money, friendships, peace of mind–even success–chasing vaporware.
Jim knows now that he was wrong-headed. He was thinking with his ego, and his libido, not his heart. That he mistook yearning, for loving. He tried to make something fit that was never going to, like shoes that are way too tight but you keep wearing regardless of blisters, pain and ugly rubbing, because you think if you persevere you’ll finally mould those darn shoes to fit you. Yup, Jim was trying to make the wrong shoes fit.
I wanted to share Jim’s story, as it’s one that as a Life Coach, I see way too often in different versions and flavors. As more and more folks get divorced a great many find themselves single and hopeful that they will get a chance to find love a second, or even third, time around. Some carry a ton of old emotional baggage, others arrive at this place, mature and confident (just like Jim), but nearly all of them arrive with unreasonable expectations. Too many end up trying to force-fit their ideals into a too-tight shoe.
I am a great believer in soul mates. I know that when you are with the right person, it may not be all sweetness and light, you might verbally tussle with each other now and again, you may disagree on lots of things, you may enjoy different past-times, and have different ambitions. You may like different foods, have different friends, spend a lot of time apart, disagree on politics, and vacations. But I also know that NONE of that matters as long as you share a deep mutual trust, respect, affection and connection; an easiness and an openness so that whenever you are together it feels just like coming home after a long, hard trip; a sense of ‘safeness’ born of knowing that your back is covered by your best friend; a shared, quiet delight in each other that’s hard to explain, but that seeps into your bloodstream, warms your heart and that you slip on like a favorite pair of snug, soft, comfortable slippers.
If you’re struggling to decide if you’re in the right relationship, just ask yourself one simple question: “Am I Trying To Make The Wrong Shoes Fit?”
Most marriage ceremonies last fifteen minutes. Why not make them as memorable as possible for you and your family? There are many tasteful ways to lighten up the moment, make them more meaningful to you as a couple or to the family as a whole. Over the next few days I will highlight some of these special ceremonies that make you think outside the box and will make your day even more exciting, if you can imagine that!
Wedding Wine Ceremony
Let’s begin with The Wine Ceremony. The Wine Ceremony is a fairly common ritual done at weddings. The concept is similar to that of The Candle Lighting Ceremony. It symbolizes the two people coming together as they form the marriage bond.
The wine ceremony can be done two ways. The first is to have one wine glass filled with a liquid. (I would suggest a clear liquid in case any spills happen) After I talk about the meaning, the glass is handed to the groom who takes a sip; he hands it to his bride, who takes a sip and the bride hands it back to the minister.
The other way encompasses the idea about drinking together but not from one glass, eating together, but not of the same loaf, etc. This ceremony can be done using two glasses and intertwining arms as you both take a sip. It’s cute and very romantic.
If you would like more information on this and other wedding ceremonies, please give me a call, I will be happy to discuss it with you. Next: The Candle and Dove Ceremony